Where in your life does the same old situation keep coming back to you time and again, seemingly robbing you of your personal successes?
How often do we just wish or hope things will change this time without actually doing anything different? With stuck-ness, you can be sure that if you don’t deal with it when it’s small, it’ll come back with big purple knobs on shouting louder next time. Personally I’d rather stick pins down my fingernails than face up to change, but when the problem gets so big it starts to affect everything else in your life, it’s time to do something about it.
February 2nd is Groundhog Day. It’s also the Pagan/Celtic/ Christian feast of Imbolc, St Brigid’s or Candlemas respectively. Astrologically, Feb 2nd is one of the ‘cross-quarter’ days of the year when tension in the earth’s energies have built to a climax. Change is imminent and is often forced by ‘circumstances’ at these times of year.
At Imbolc (pronounced Immulc), children would bring flowers and gifts as offerings to the goddess, in the wish that their village would be blessed with a healthy harvest. A healthy harvest was all the success people needed back then.Nowadays success is not much different at heart: we want to live in alignment with our dearest values in peace and harmony with others.
When this isn’t happening it’s because we experienced a personal Groundhog Day: even though we want, hope and even pray for our wish to come true, we keep on thinking the same old thoughts generated by the same beliefs and attitudes, but somehow expect a different result.
In the comedy drama, ‘Groundhog Day’, Bill Murray plays Phil Connors, an egocentric weatherman who’s in love with Andie Macdowell’s character but is failing miserably to win her attention or love in return. Phil finds himself in a time loop and so each day when he once again fails to achieve his goal, he is returned to wake in his bed at the 6am alarm to begin the same day all over again.Phil alone has the opportunity to create a different, better version of his own reality. Each day he is presented with the same people and circumstances (thoughts and beliefs) but sees something different outside of himself to blame for his frustrations. Pride, ego, pig-headedness, arrogance, rudeness and aggression send him hurtling each day into failure.
He sees the world ‘out there’ as what needs to change rather than the world ‘in here’ where his attitudes and beliefs reside. Naturally, the’ world’ does not cooperate with him – it cannot bring him anything different until he himself understands where the true power resides and consciously takes charge. Finally, after countless returns to 6am, he ‘gets it’ having learned the hard way that changing his attitude to one of kindness, patience, compassion and a sense of humour effortlessly win him the love he wants.
Groundhog Day reminds us of how we too go around trying to fix what’s ‘out there’ instead of what’s ‘in here’. We get annoyed and impatient, sometimes blaming others, maybe even feeing victimised when we feel frustrated, afraid or can’t get what we want. But whatever we perceive ‘out there’ is just a mirror, a reflection of a thought, belief, attitude or feeling that is inside of us helping create our version of ‘reality’.
Resources for getting out of a personal Groundhog Day
1) ‘Groundhog Day’ 1993, written and directed by Harold Ramis – a great rom- com if you haven’t seen it 🙂
2) Remember to say ‘I Love you’ ‘I forgive you’ ‘I’m sorry’ or Thank you to every difficult perception that comes up in your awareness. You don’t need to know why’ it’s there, just acknowledge its presence in your life as something that has come up for cleaning and clearing.
3) Get over going it alone and ask for help: taking action to seek help goes about 90% of the way to self-healing as you demonstrate to yourself that enough is enough.
4) Find a personal coach, mentor, agenda-less friend or therapist to reflect your story back to you and enable you to create thoughts and actions that are support you while you make necessary changes.
5) www.hooponopono.net –
6. www.findyourselfatspirithill.co.uk – great holistic therapy with a grounded approach.
Facing your Groundhog Day problem is one of the keys to greater self-awareness, unleashing more of your intuitive wisdom and ability to self-heal.
Happy Groundhog Day!