5 Reasons for Giving
Did you notice how forgiving is for giving? To yourself as it happens, but everyone benefits in the end because forgiving changes sticky, stuck, binding, gluey energy and allows it to dissolve and evolve, morphing into something lighter and freer.
Is it always possible to forgive? How do we forgive what we believe to be unforgiveable of ourselves or of those who have hurt us? In his books and workshops, spiritual teacher and author Colin Tipping has developed a process he calls Radical Forgiveness. It’s what he calls spiritual technology that allows us to give the job of forgiving to Spirit/God/Higher Self or whatever name we choose to give the so-called ‘still small Voice’ within that forgives without condition. Its agenda is to keep us living life in the present, fulfilling more and more of who we are, so it wants us to ’fess up and move on.
Colin calls this style of forgiveness ‘radical’ because it’s not necessary to expect ourselves as humans with our relatively small frames of reference to understand the reasons why some things happen the way they do: why bad things can happen to the best of us and why others can literally get away with murder. He gives us the assumption that in our world of polarities, events and circumstances create victims and perpetrators: often neither party consciously chooses his or her role but plays out a dynamic that each one learns something from in time. He shows us that all we need do is to be open to the possibility that our Spiritual Self can and will do the hard work for us if we are only willing to show willing, to demonstrate there may be more to what’s happened than our small view of it.
But what’s the point in forgiveness? Why should we let go of our anger or resentment and let the perpetrator of our hurt off the hook?
Because emotions have a mind of their own and if we let them, our negative emotions will eventually run our lives, so if you ever get stuck in a story you keep telling yourself (or others) or feel disproportionately upset, consider some of the payoffs of giving the story up, letting it go and dissolving the energy that keeps it alive at your expense.
Here’s 5 good reasons to let go:
1.We can put an end to feeling bad all the time. Emotions such as hurt, fear, anger, resentment, guilt, shame or hatred are rubbish and very draining! They drag us down, use up what energy we have and rob us of wellbeing, peace of mind or any chance of joy. Remember that letting go is not about letting anyone but ourselves off the hook: the hook of being tied to the past.
2.We’re free to live in the present again. Whilst this is an obvious extension of the first point, it’s worth thinking about because when we live in the past all the time we forget how to experience gratitude, joy, peace and all the emotional states that support success and love.
3.We can change how we perceive ourselves and the events of our lives for the better: radical forgiveness in particular is a an amazingly simple, methodical and clear way to understand all the emotions that have been tied up in an event and how they rarely begin with the event we believe they are about. The energy of a hurt is usually associated with a smaller and yet still significant event or belief that was not acknowledge when it originally happened. Our soul demands its feelings to be acknowledged and creates bigger and bigger events to get our attention and help us to accept , own or acknowledge what’s previously been disowned or unacknowledged.
4.We can take back control of our life: as victims or perpetrators of injustice, our energy becomes tied into a story we keep telling ourselves that grows bigger and bigger, (energy grows where attention flows). The energy of the story keeps us stuck in a disempowered feeling that makes us think we can never change things and must always…….. (fill in the dotted line). Forgiving dissolves the energy of the story so it can no longer has an emotional charge or power to keep us stuck.
5.Finally, perhaps the strongest argument for forgiveness is to be healthy in mind and body. Emotions such as resentment and anger are particularly damaging to the body, actually secreting hormonal changes that damage cells and leave them open to ailments or disease. Candace Pert in Molecules of Emotion explains the biological processes that cause this to happen.
For more info on radical forgiveness see www.radicalforgiveness.com
Read: Molecules of Emotion by Candace Pert; Radical Forgiveness, Radical Self-Acceptance by Colin Tipping.